About us
We meet every other week, usually on Friday evenings or weekends, so there’s plenty of time to recharge between events without losing momentum. Our gatherings are thoughtfully spaced to give you time to reflect and stay excited for the next adventure whether that’s a cozy wine tasting, a nature hike, or a creative workshop designed to spark real conversation.
Between events, members stay in touch through our private message board, where you can share reflections, plan casual hangouts, or just keep the connection going. It’s a low pressure space to get to know people at your own pace, swap book recommendations, or hype each other up before the next gathering.
We’re looking for locals who are genuinely ready for something real not just swiping or surface level chats. If you’re kind, emotionally aware, and ready to build something lasting with someone who shares your values, this is your crowd. You’re probably the type who believes love is worth the effort, and you’re not afraid to show up as yourself.
Accessibility matters to us, so we rotate venues to ensure a mix of indoor and outdoor options with wheelchair access, gender neutral restrooms, and quiet spaces when needed. We also provide transportation tips and can arrange carpooling to help make sure no one misses out. If you have a specific need, just let us know we’re here to make it work.
If you’re tired of the dating game and ready for something deeper, this is your invitation. The Ontological Eros Starling Club is more than events it’s a shared journey toward meaningful connection, with people who get it. Come as you are, bring your whole self, and let’s build something real together.
Upcoming events
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Bakersfield Virtual Speed Dating for Committed Couples
2907 San Jose Ave, Oakland, CA, US🌹 Virtual Speed Dating – Great for Newcomers – Meet Local Singles from Anywhere!
⚠️ HEADS UP: Clicking RSVP Isn't Enough!
You must sign up through one of the links below and finish the short personality quiz to confirm your place. Choose your age range and register now – places are limited and fill quickly!
📋 Find Your Age Range Below to Register:
- Ages 18-32 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 30-46 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 40-58 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 55+ → REGISTER HERE
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☕ What if your next date kicked off from your sofa? It totally can! No prior experience necessary. No dating profile needed. Just real humans having real conversations. Our online setup makes it effortless for newcomers to connect with Bakersfield singles in a no-pressure environment.
🎯 Perfect for:
- Anyone after a fun, organised way to meet new people
- Anyone giving speed dating a go for the very first time
- People after meaningful connections in a laid-back setting
How It Works
- Secure Your Place – Choose your age range and finish the registration process.
- Complete the Quick Compatibility Quiz – Helps us match you with like-minded Bakersfield newcomers.
- Join the Zoom Session – Log in from home and greet your host. We’ll take care of the rest!
- The Fun Part – Rotate through rounds of lively chats with pre-matched Bakersfield singles.
- Discover Your Matches – We’ll let you know about any mutual interest afterwards. The rest is up to you!
Event Details
- Format: Online Zoom session – intimate atmosphere, professional hosting
- Location: No venue necessary – just a comfy chair and a solid internet connection
- Host: Warm host who helps newcomers feel welcome and at ease right away
- Vibe: Engaging, live chats with Bakersfield singles – no scripts, just good vibes
- Matches: Mutual matches shared after the event wraps up
- Rounds: Several short rounds so you can meet plenty of people
- Dress code: Smart casual – look sharp, feel great!
💡 Pro tip: Have a beverage ready and find a quiet, well-lit area for the best experience.
⭐ "The personality quiz genuinely works. My matches were spot on!" – Delighted first-timer
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✨ You deserve to meet someone wonderful – and you can do it from home. We’ll see you on Zoom! 🌹 ✨34 attendees
Fresno Virtual Speed Dating for Committed Couples
PMWC+5R Hunters Point, Oakland, CA, US💕 Beginner-Friendly Speed Dating – Connect Virtually, Feel Right at Home!
🔴 KEY NOTICE: RSVP ≠ Guaranteed Entry!
You must sign up via your age group link below AND finish the personality quiz. This is required to take part. Limited places – register right away to avoid missing out!
📌 Sign Up for Your Age Group Here:
- Ages 18-32 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 30-46 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 40-58 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 55+ → REGISTER HERE
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🤝 Fed up with swiping and getting nowhere? Real chats are way better! Speed dating from home means you can truly be yourself in a comfortable setting. No noisy bars, no commute hassle – just real conversations with Fresno singles who genuinely want to connect.
🎯 Perfect for:
- Anyone who feels uneasy about conventional dating scenes
- People who find traditional dating nerve-wracking and want to start online
- Curious newcomers eager to give speed dating a shot
- Working professionals who prioritise their time and comfort
- Remote workers who enjoy the flexibility of virtual meetups
How It Works
- Secure Your Place – Choose your age range and finish the registration process.
- Answer a Few Quick Questions – Our quiz helps pair you with compatible Fresno singles.
- Hop on Zoom – Pour yourself a drink, get settled, and let the host walk you through each round.
- Date from Home – Have real, meaningful mini-dates with Fresno singles – all from your sofa.
- See Who Liked You Back – Mutual matches sent straight to your inbox. Your next chapter starts now!
Event Details
- Format: Interactive Zoom meetup – feels like you're in the same room
- Location: At home where you’re comfortable and relaxed – no packed venues
- Host: Friendly, professional host focused on making everyone comfortable
- Vibe: Comfortable chats with Fresno singles in a supportive, newcomer-friendly setting
💡 Advice: Treat each round like chatting with a mate. Keep it light, keep it genuine!
⭐ "At last, a dating event that doesn't make introverts feel out of place!" – Thankful attendee
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✨ Stop waiting for the ideal moment. This is it. Meet Fresno singles this evening! ✨ ✨35 attendees
Sacramento Virtual Speed Dating for Committed Couples
103 Diablo Dr, Oakland, CA, US💖 Start Your Speed Dating Journey Here – Online, Simple & Relaxed!
⚠️ IMPORTANT: Your RSVP Does NOT Secure a Place!
To confirm your spot, you must register and finish the personality quiz using one of the age group links below. Pick your age range, click to register, and take the quiz. Places are limited – don't delay!
🔗 Click Your Age Group to Sign Up & Take the Quiz:
- Ages 18-32 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 30-46 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 40-58 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 55+ → REGISTER HERE
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💡 Intrigued by speed dating but feeling nervous? We've got your back! Think of it as the most relaxed first date you'll ever have – from your sofa, with a host keeping things lively, and a room of Sacramento singles who are just as eager (and perhaps just as nervous) as you.
🎯 Perfect for:
- Newcomers looking for a safe space to build dating confidence
- Anyone who feels uneasy about conventional dating scenes
- First-time speed daters excited to try something different
- Singles looking for a secure, comfortable virtual environment
⭐ "The virtual format was perfect for me. I felt at ease and had a fantastic time!" – Sacramento single
Event Details
- Format: Live on Zoom – simple to join, private, and newcomer-friendly
- Location: At home where you’re comfortable and relaxed – no packed venues
- Host: Warm host who helps newcomers feel welcome and at ease right away
- Vibe: Great energy, honest talk, and genuine connections with Sacramento locals
How It Works
- Register – Click the sign-up link for your age bracket above.
- Do the Short Personality Assessment – This lets us optimise your matches for the night.
- Log In & Get Comfortable – Join the Zoom call and let the evening begin. Your host handles all the logistics!
- The Fun Part – Rotate through rounds of lively chats with pre-matched Sacramento singles.
- Match Results – Find out who you clicked with. If the interest is mutual, we’ll connect you!
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I need any speed dating experience?
Not at all! This event is built specifically for newcomers. Our host walks you through every step.How long are the conversations?
Each round lasts a few minutes – long enough to feel a spark, short enough to keep things exciting!---
✨ Amazing connections begin with a single conversation. Yours could start this evening! 🌹 ✨34 attendees
Long Beach Virtual Speed Dating for Committed Couples
3110 Bayview Dr, Oakland, CA, US🫶 Virtual Speed Dating – Great for Newcomers – Meet Local Singles from Anywhere!
⚠️ IMPORTANT: Your RSVP Does NOT Secure a Place!
To confirm your spot, you must register and finish the personality quiz using one of the age group links below. Pick your age range, click to register, and take the quiz. Places are limited – don't delay!
👇 Select Your Age Group & Claim Your Place:
- Ages 18-32 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 30-46 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 40-58 → REGISTER HERE
- Ages 55+ → REGISTER HERE
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🌈 Searching for real, genuine connections? This event was built for you! Think of it as the most relaxed first date you'll ever have – from your sofa, with a host keeping things lively, and a room of Long Beach singles who are just as eager (and perhaps just as nervous) as you.
🎯 Perfect for:
- Anyone after a fun, organised way to meet new people
- Singles looking for a secure, comfortable virtual environment
- Beginners who want to date without the stress of face-to-face encounters
Event Details
- Format: Zoom video session – interactive, personal, and inviting
- Location: Anywhere you have Wi-Fi – your sofa, your café, your pick
- Host: Experienced speed dating host with a knack for putting newcomers at ease
- Vibe: A feel-good evening of laughs and connection with Long Beach newcomers
- Icebreakers: Entertaining prompts provided to keep chats flowing
- Follow-up: Post-event match results delivered straight to your inbox
- Privacy: Your contact details are never shared without mutual agreement
- Matches: Mutual matches shared after the event wraps up
How It Works
- Sign Up for Your Age Group – Pick the session that matches your age range above and finish registration.
- Answer a Few Quick Questions – Our quiz helps pair you with compatible Long Beach singles.
- Log In & Get Comfortable – Join the Zoom call and let the evening begin. Your host handles all the logistics!
- Enjoy the Conversations – Every round is timed and hosted so each chat feels easy and fun.
- See Who Liked You Back – Mutual matches sent straight to your inbox. Your next chapter starts now!
💡 Top tip: Good lighting and a tidy background make a big difference on Zoom dates.
⭐ "At last, a dating event that doesn't make introverts feel out of place!" – Thankful attendee
Frequently Asked Questions
How long are the conversations?
Each round lasts a few minutes – long enough to feel a spark, short enough to keep things exciting!Do I need any speed dating experience?
Not at all! This event is built specifically for newcomers. Our host walks you through every step.---
✨ The toughest part is clicking register. After that, we handle everything. See you there! 🌹 ✨34 attendees
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