What we’re about
This is an activity group for all ages and abilities. Friendly pets are welcome.*
We do 1 or 2 group things per month usually on Saturdays.
When you join, Please let us know what you'd like to do first!!
If you're interested in being an organizer, let me know.
I will add a descriptor to the exercise related Meetups as follows (I'll add a +/- to add more detail):
Hard - Example - Camp Muir day hike OR 50+ miles on a bicycle with hills.
Medium - Example - Summit Mt. Defiance/Mailbox Peak OR ride 40-50miles with hills.
Easy - Example - Hike to Talapus Lake in summer OR ride bikes around Lake Sammamish at Cascades group 'brisk' pace.
Picnic - Example - Walk around a flat park for a few hours OR ride bikes around Greenlake.
Study - Example - Sit at Starbuck's and learn how to use a Compass.
Volunteer - Example - Spend a few hours working on Homeless data collection.
Social - Example - Meet for dinner or a movie.
Our activities are more experiential than goal oriented. The goal is to gather for relaxed fun activity. The summit of a mountain is not the goal...we often turn back to support the group. But, if the conditions are right and it's safe...let's try for the summit!
Things this group does...
- Sometime event meetups - like movies or other things.
- SUP
- Swimming
- Picnics
- Hiking
- Backpacking
- Skiing
- Cycling
- Kayaking
- Bicycle touring
- Wilderness navigation hikes
- Awake Love meetings
- Mountain biking - Fire roads, some single track - easy & safe
- Mountain bike camping
Safety Considerations**:**
How safe is Meetup? Meetup is as safe as other social media websites, so long as you exercise caution when meeting with those you are connected to through the website. You can also report abusive users to keep them accountable for their actions, and ensure that everyone using the website can meet in a safe environment.
INHERENT RISK: As of today, there are no experts in this group. Nobody is qualified to lead any event. We are simply inviting you to come along as a friend on various activities that we personally participate in. You participate at your own risk. Inherent natural hazards are associated with back-country travel, cycling, or any physical activity. We do not - nor do any organizers of this group - accept any liability for accidents/injuries in connection with the activities published herein or on linked sites. By participating in any event of this group you are agreeing to release me (Pat Vulk) or any other organizer from liability. See section 6.2 of Meetup's terms of service - they apply here too. By becoming a member of this group you are providing an electronic waiver which you agree to be equivalent to a signed waiver that shall be considered legal in a court of law.
Upcoming events
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•OnlineA weekly Zoom meeting for authentic connection!
Online### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message
Topic: Healthy Relationships
**** Meetings are FREE as long as you RSVP ****
**** Without RSVP - Meeting cost is $5 *******Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008](https://www.google.com/url?q=https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008&sa=D&source=calendar&usd=2&usg=AOvVaw1WCt5NZtrocx6Lv_J8Xp6c)
Password:
123456### 🌿 4-Week Group Series: Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns
Theme: How Our Attachment Styles Shape Codependency and Vulnerability to Narcissistic Abuse
Pre-Meeting Homework Video: Link
***
#### Week 1 Nov 8th — Understanding Attachment & the Roots of Codependency
Focus: Explore the origins of attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and how early relational experiences shape adult relationship patterns.
Discussion Points:- How attachment insecurity manifests as codependency or emotional over-functioning.
- Why anxious or disorganized attachment often pairs with narcissistic or avoidant partners.
Modalities: - Psychoeducation on attachment theory and trauma bonding.
- Guided journaling on childhood attachment experiences.
- Somatic grounding to reconnect with the body’s sense of safety and self.
Goal: Build awareness of how attachment needs drive codependent behavior and begin differentiating self from other.
***
#### Week 2 — Boundaries as Secure Attachment in Action
Focus: Reframing boundaries not as walls but as a sign of earned security and self-trust.
Discussion Points:- How anxious attachment fears abandonment while avoidant attachment fears engulfment.
- Why inconsistent boundaries keep toxic relational cycles alive.
Modalities: - Role-playing boundary-setting in relationships with narcissistic or controlling personalities.
- IFS-style “parts” dialogue with the inner protector who fears saying no.
- Group reflection on what “emotional safety” means.
Goal: Develop practical boundary skills as an act of self-love and secure attachment repair.
***
#### Week 3 — From People-Pleasing to Empowered Attachment
Focus: Moving from anxious, approval-seeking dynamics to self-validation and relational authenticity.
Discussion Points:- The link between people-pleasing and anxious attachment.
- How narcissistic partners exploit the fear of rejection and abandonment.
Modalities: - Inner child work to soothe attachment anxiety.
- Guided visualization to embody self-worth and power.
- Expressive art or writing exercises to honor true needs.
Goal: Shift from external validation to internal security, creating the foundation for healthy reciprocity.
***
#### Week 4 — EXAM DAY!! Tests graded during meeting.
#### Integrating Change: From Trauma Bonds to Interdependence
Focus: Transitioning from codependent or trauma-bonded relationships toward interdependent, emotionally safe connections.
Discussion Points:- Recognizing trauma bonds vs. healthy attachment.
- Building “earned security” through consistent self-attunement and boundaries.
Modalities: - Compassion-focused meditation for self-forgiveness and closure.
- Partner dialogue practice for mutual empathy and assertive communication.
- Creation of individualized action plans for ongoing attachment repair.
Goal: Embody relational balance—where love, autonomy, and safety coexist.
Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
— Pat Vulk
1 attendee- •Online
A weekly Zoom meeting for authentic connection!
Online### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message
Topic: Healthy Relationships
**** Meetings are FREE as long as you RSVP ****
**** Without RSVP - Meeting cost is $5 *******Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008](https://www.google.com/url?q=https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008&sa=D&source=calendar&usd=2&usg=AOvVaw1WCt5NZtrocx6Lv_J8Xp6c)
Password:
123456### 🌿 4-Week Group Series: Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns
Theme: How Our Attachment Styles Shape Codependency and Vulnerability to Narcissistic Abuse
Pre-Meeting Homework Video: Link
***
#### Week 1 Nov 8th — Understanding Attachment & the Roots of Codependency
Focus: Explore the origins of attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and how early relational experiences shape adult relationship patterns.
Discussion Points:- How attachment insecurity manifests as codependency or emotional over-functioning.
- Why anxious or disorganized attachment often pairs with narcissistic or avoidant partners.
Modalities: - Psychoeducation on attachment theory and trauma bonding.
- Guided journaling on childhood attachment experiences.
- Somatic grounding to reconnect with the body’s sense of safety and self.
Goal: Build awareness of how attachment needs drive codependent behavior and begin differentiating self from other.
***
#### Week 2 — Boundaries as Secure Attachment in Action
Focus: Reframing boundaries not as walls but as a sign of earned security and self-trust.
Discussion Points:- How anxious attachment fears abandonment while avoidant attachment fears engulfment.
- Why inconsistent boundaries keep toxic relational cycles alive.
Modalities: - Role-playing boundary-setting in relationships with narcissistic or controlling personalities.
- IFS-style “parts” dialogue with the inner protector who fears saying no.
- Group reflection on what “emotional safety” means.
Goal: Develop practical boundary skills as an act of self-love and secure attachment repair.
***
#### Week 3 — From People-Pleasing to Empowered Attachment
Focus: Moving from anxious, approval-seeking dynamics to self-validation and relational authenticity.
Discussion Points:- The link between people-pleasing and anxious attachment.
- How narcissistic partners exploit the fear of rejection and abandonment.
Modalities: - Inner child work to soothe attachment anxiety.
- Guided visualization to embody self-worth and power.
- Expressive art or writing exercises to honor true needs.
Goal: Shift from external validation to internal security, creating the foundation for healthy reciprocity.
***
#### Week 4 — EXAM DAY!! Tests graded during meeting.
#### Integrating Change: From Trauma Bonds to Interdependence
Focus: Transitioning from codependent or trauma-bonded relationships toward interdependent, emotionally safe connections.
Discussion Points:- Recognizing trauma bonds vs. healthy attachment.
- Building “earned security” through consistent self-attunement and boundaries.
Modalities: - Compassion-focused meditation for self-forgiveness and closure.
- Partner dialogue practice for mutual empathy and assertive communication.
- Creation of individualized action plans for ongoing attachment repair.
Goal: Embody relational balance—where love, autonomy, and safety coexist.
Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
— Pat Vulk
1 attendee - •Online
A weekly Zoom meeting for authentic connection!
Online### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message
Topic: Healthy Relationships
**** Meetings are FREE as long as you RSVP ****
**** Without RSVP - Meeting cost is $5 *******Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008](https://www.google.com/url?q=https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008&sa=D&source=calendar&usd=2&usg=AOvVaw1WCt5NZtrocx6Lv_J8Xp6c)
Password:
123456### 🌿 4-Week Group Series: Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns
Theme: How Our Attachment Styles Shape Codependency and Vulnerability to Narcissistic Abuse
Pre-Meeting Homework Video: Link
***
#### Week 1 Nov 8th — Understanding Attachment & the Roots of Codependency
Focus: Explore the origins of attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and how early relational experiences shape adult relationship patterns.
Discussion Points:- How attachment insecurity manifests as codependency or emotional over-functioning.
- Why anxious or disorganized attachment often pairs with narcissistic or avoidant partners.
Modalities: - Psychoeducation on attachment theory and trauma bonding.
- Guided journaling on childhood attachment experiences.
- Somatic grounding to reconnect with the body’s sense of safety and self.
Goal: Build awareness of how attachment needs drive codependent behavior and begin differentiating self from other.
***
#### Week 2 — Boundaries as Secure Attachment in Action
Focus: Reframing boundaries not as walls but as a sign of earned security and self-trust.
Discussion Points:- How anxious attachment fears abandonment while avoidant attachment fears engulfment.
- Why inconsistent boundaries keep toxic relational cycles alive.
Modalities: - Role-playing boundary-setting in relationships with narcissistic or controlling personalities.
- IFS-style “parts” dialogue with the inner protector who fears saying no.
- Group reflection on what “emotional safety” means.
Goal: Develop practical boundary skills as an act of self-love and secure attachment repair.
***
#### Week 3 — From People-Pleasing to Empowered Attachment
Focus: Moving from anxious, approval-seeking dynamics to self-validation and relational authenticity.
Discussion Points:- The link between people-pleasing and anxious attachment.
- How narcissistic partners exploit the fear of rejection and abandonment.
Modalities: - Inner child work to soothe attachment anxiety.
- Guided visualization to embody self-worth and power.
- Expressive art or writing exercises to honor true needs.
Goal: Shift from external validation to internal security, creating the foundation for healthy reciprocity.
***
#### Week 4 — EXAM DAY!! Tests graded during meeting.
#### Integrating Change: From Trauma Bonds to Interdependence
Focus: Transitioning from codependent or trauma-bonded relationships toward interdependent, emotionally safe connections.
Discussion Points:- Recognizing trauma bonds vs. healthy attachment.
- Building “earned security” through consistent self-attunement and boundaries.
Modalities: - Compassion-focused meditation for self-forgiveness and closure.
- Partner dialogue practice for mutual empathy and assertive communication.
- Creation of individualized action plans for ongoing attachment repair.
Goal: Embody relational balance—where love, autonomy, and safety coexist.
Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
— Pat Vulk
1 attendee - •Online
A weekly Zoom meeting for authentic connection!
Online### 🌱 Weekly Group Meeting Message
Topic: Healthy Relationships
**** Meetings are FREE as long as you RSVP ****
**** Without RSVP - Meeting cost is $5 *******Join Online via Zoom: (attendance is locked 5 minutes after start)
[https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008](https://www.google.com/url?q=https://us02web.zoom.us/j/83719063008&sa=D&source=calendar&usd=2&usg=AOvVaw1WCt5NZtrocx6Lv_J8Xp6c)
Password:
123456### 🌿 4-Week Group Series: Attachment Theory and Relationship Patterns
Theme: How Our Attachment Styles Shape Codependency and Vulnerability to Narcissistic Abuse
Pre-Meeting Homework Video: Link
***
#### Week 1 Nov 8th — Understanding Attachment & the Roots of Codependency
Focus: Explore the origins of attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, disorganized) and how early relational experiences shape adult relationship patterns.
Discussion Points:- How attachment insecurity manifests as codependency or emotional over-functioning.
- Why anxious or disorganized attachment often pairs with narcissistic or avoidant partners.
Modalities: - Psychoeducation on attachment theory and trauma bonding.
- Guided journaling on childhood attachment experiences.
- Somatic grounding to reconnect with the body’s sense of safety and self.
Goal: Build awareness of how attachment needs drive codependent behavior and begin differentiating self from other.
***
#### Week 2 — Boundaries as Secure Attachment in Action
Focus: Reframing boundaries not as walls but as a sign of earned security and self-trust.
Discussion Points:- How anxious attachment fears abandonment while avoidant attachment fears engulfment.
- Why inconsistent boundaries keep toxic relational cycles alive.
Modalities: - Role-playing boundary-setting in relationships with narcissistic or controlling personalities.
- IFS-style “parts” dialogue with the inner protector who fears saying no.
- Group reflection on what “emotional safety” means.
Goal: Develop practical boundary skills as an act of self-love and secure attachment repair.
***
#### Week 3 — From People-Pleasing to Empowered Attachment
Focus: Moving from anxious, approval-seeking dynamics to self-validation and relational authenticity.
Discussion Points:- The link between people-pleasing and anxious attachment.
- How narcissistic partners exploit the fear of rejection and abandonment.
Modalities: - Inner child work to soothe attachment anxiety.
- Guided visualization to embody self-worth and power.
- Expressive art or writing exercises to honor true needs.
Goal: Shift from external validation to internal security, creating the foundation for healthy reciprocity.
***
#### Week 4 — EXAM DAY!! Tests graded during meeting.
#### Integrating Change: From Trauma Bonds to Interdependence
Focus: Transitioning from codependent or trauma-bonded relationships toward interdependent, emotionally safe connections.
Discussion Points:- Recognizing trauma bonds vs. healthy attachment.
- Building “earned security” through consistent self-attunement and boundaries.
Modalities: - Compassion-focused meditation for self-forgiveness and closure.
- Partner dialogue practice for mutual empathy and assertive communication.
- Creation of individualized action plans for ongoing attachment repair.
Goal: Embody relational balance—where love, autonomy, and safety coexist.
Looking forward to sharing stories, strategies, and strength this week. You’re not alone — and you’re more powerful than you think. 💬🧠❤️
— Pat Vulk
1 attendee
Past events
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